But all we get out of it are death (of spirit and sometimes body), shame, and broken fellowship with the Creator, as well as the possibility of broken fellowship with our spouse.We must stop viewing sex as sin, and instead view it as a special gift, a set-aside package meant to be opened by two people, together, at an appointed time.This can be the case at times, for chemical reasons, particularly as a woman nears the menopausal years.But the reverse of this can also be true, as it is often the case that a woman's sexual drive heats up about the time the man's sexual drive is cooling down.But today, I want to examine and debunk the myths and feelings that can and do harm Christian marriages. Though not often spoken, these underlying beliefs negatively affect sexual intimacy between couples. The only thing Satan has ever done is pervert and twist God's designs.This belief ultimately stems from a faulty view of God.... In fact, Satan has never come up with anything good. In the beginning, the Holy God designed a beautiful garden; Satan perverted it into a power-struggle and convinced humans to defy God's laws (namely, "don't eat the fruit of that tree") and see for themselves what God was withholding from them.namely, that He didn't design, intend, and bless the sexual union of a married man and woman from the very beginning. All they got out of it was death, shame, and broken fellowship with the Creator.The Holy God designed a beautiful garden of pleasure for husbands and wives to enjoy together; Satan has perverted it into a recreational activity and convinced humans to defy God's laws (namely, one man, one woman, for life) and see for themselves what God has been withholding.
A book was even written about it in 2001, called, . Various research will tell you that married people do it more, less, better, or worse than their unmarried counterparts.
Though you can find various viewpoints, research more frequently supports the notion that married people have considerably more sex and better sex than sexually-active singles.
I've written previously on freedom within marriage, and freedom in the marriage bed.
But I am of the opinion that far too many women rely on this pervasive belief to beg off from intimacy, when really, a little good conversation would warm them up quite nicely.
Oftentimes, the problem lies in a lack of communication.